THE KEY TO SELF RELIANCE INTERNALIZED VS EXTERNALIZED ACCOUNTABILITY
Self reliance is one of the most powerful attributes we can develop as people. With it we are able to achieve anything we commit to. Its a big part of what allows us to commit in the first place. In regards to self reliance, one of the biggest struggles people have is being able to keep themselves accountable. If you identify with this struggle, then this is for you. Here I’m going to explain the following.
- Externalized Accountability
- Internalized Accountability
- Improving Self Reliance
EXTERNALIZED ACCOUNTABILITY
This is also what I like to call “institutionalized accountability”. Basically this is anyone besides yourself who is holding you accountable. It started when you were young with your parents setting and enforcing rules. As soon as you were old enough to go to school, they came in your room and whipped the covers right off of you, “let’s go! Get up! Time to go!” Well at least something along those lines. Your teachers took over once you got school, gave you homework, study materials, and tests. Even as an adult you’re held accountable by employers. They expect you to be to work at a given time and they expect you to produce a certain quality of work.
You see the thing about externalized accountability is that someone is setting the standard for you and you have to operate at or above that standard, or face the consequences. This is a great way to learn accountability from a young age. The one major flaw is that in our society typically, externalized accountability becomes the most prominent form of accountability in our lives. This is to the point where we barely ever learn internalized accountability.
INTERNALIZED ACCOUNTABILITY
This is where your real power is! You become truly unstoppable when internalized accountability becomes your most dominant form of accountability. Internalized accountability is when you hold yourself accountable and set your own standards. If you have major personal goals like lofty fitness goals, entrepreneurship goals, and personal development goals, you need to develop internalized accountability. It will be extremely difficult for you to reach those personal goals if you externalize your accountability because ask yourself, what happens when no one is pushing you? What happens when no one is watching you? When no one else is holding your feet to the fire and you’re not holding your own feet to the fire, you will slack off. You will quit. Having got all that out on the table, let’s talk about how to win.
IMPROVING SELF RELIANCE
Cultivating real internalized accountability starts with setting the standard for yourself and then keeping a reminder in your face of the standard you set. Obviously its much easier said than done, but the key here is setting a step by step process and being 100% honest with yourself. It starts with a few questions.
“Who do you want to be from this day forward?” (Right down your values)
“Why do you want to achieve the goals you’ve set?” (It better be a really strong reason)
“What 3 changes will you commit to this week?” (These changes absolutely must be made)
Right down your answers to all of these questions and keep them in multiple places where you can easily see them EVERYDAY. This written form serves as your daily reminder and also serves as a hybrid form of accountability. It serves as both internal and external accountability. Over time as you are reminded each day and you develop the habit of acting in alignment with what you’ve written, you will see massive success as a result.
In closing, I charge you with the responsibility of acting on this information that I’ve just given you. GO GET IT!
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